Emotionally Focused Therapy - repairing your connection

Explore what's really going on, rediscover hope

Picture of a couple relaxing together I'll help you feel heard and understood, wherever you are in your relationship.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) gives a safe and effective route into the heart of your issues. We slow everything down so that there's space to tune into what's really going on, rebuilding trust and renewing your connection.

Sex - could it be a safe adventure together?

Being sexually intimate can bring up a lot of vulnerability. If it's helpful, and when you're ready, I can support you both in talking about it. I've taken extra training in this area.

Relationships and me - a love of connection

Picture of Geoff Green, 2020 I've explored various types - long-term, shorter ones, consensually involving multiple people, same and opposite gender pairings.

They've been core to my learning about myself, creating a "safe base" to take risks, stretching me to be truthful about my beliefs, desires and fears, and opening me to the other's needs and complexities.

More on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

EFCT comes from over 25 years of research, led by Dr Sue Johnson, to understand how and why relationships do or don’t work. Patterns were seen about how connection is created, restored, or lost.

It's the most tested and successful couples’ therapy available. Couples describe very high levels of satisfaction, after sessions and several years later.

A plan for our work - how we rebuild connection

We build a picture of the cycle that you're repeating together, using recent examples. I'll support you both in describing your experiences.

I'll help the other absorb the things you share, with care for any blocks they find in doing so, checking where things had previously been misunderstood.

We look at the trigger points for disconnection, and explore any injuries you've faced. Your interactions will calm as understanding deepens on both sides.

Picture of a couple touching In this way, you build trust in each other and create new and enduring bonds.

The first meeting is as a couple, then I'll see you both one-to-one, returning to couples' sessions after this. More one-to-ones are possible, if needed.

Separating - before or during counselling

Sessions can support this process, clearing some hurts or misunderstandings. You can build foundations for future relationships, or for cooperation together where you've got children.

My qualifications, experience and commitment

I've supported individuals for over 15 years with a Person-Centred approach, and couples since Jan 2021. I've done a good amount of EFCT training and am helped by 2 years of receiving EFCT myself. Picture of holding hands

I bring sensitivity, deep listening, and a commitment to creating a safe and collaborative atmosphere. I'm comfortable with charged and intimate conversations.

As a member of the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy, I work to their strong ethical framework.